非学校教育者并非只坐以待毙。我们参与其中，全身心投入到孩子身上。所有居家教育者都如此。可非学校教育者总在情况完全相反时，听人说要“放手”。
Communication is the key to learning as a family. Communication is how we
know if what we are doing is working. Kids can communicate surprisingly well
what they need if we are willing to sit down with them and listen to what they
have to say.
作为家人一起学习，关键是沟通。通过沟通，我们才能知道所做的是否有效。如果我们愿意和孩子一起坐下来，聆听他们的心声，他们有效沟通自己需求的能力会让你刮目相看。
Homeschooling and parenting are not about parents deciding what happens and
kids follow. At, they shouldn’t be in my opinion. They are co-operative efforts.
Even unschooling parents have needs, and are allowed to speak up about those
needs. For example, we could say, “These are the needs I have as a parent – I
need to be with you and spend time with you doing things. I like to see you
learning new things and I like seeing you stretch your brain. Do you like these
things too? How can we do this? How can we make our days so that you get the
computer time you want, but I also get the family time I crave and I get to see
居家教育和当家长不是家长决定怎么做，然后让孩子效法。至少鄙人不敢苟同。这应该是同心协力的工作。即使居家教育的家长也有需求，而且也可以大声说出这些需求。比如，我们可以说，“这些是我作为家长的需求——我需要和你在一起，我需要花时间和你一起做事。我喜欢看你学习新东西，我喜欢看你动脑筋。你也喜欢这样吗?我们怎么才能做到呢?”
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